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Daddy
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love you miss you jay
2 February 2010 - sanford nc
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Gladi B
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So sorry for your loss. Dont know how i found this but it makes me think how i would fell if it were my brother as he is a christian biker. Please know that it hurts me to think there are people like this living around me in WV. I fell it causes a bad reflection on all of us. I pray the Lord gives you peace in knowing your loved one is in his arms now and He at least will have the final call for justice.
14 June 2009 - Elkview wv
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Scott
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I met Jay many years ago through George. We had fun in that old blacked out Baja of his. Jay was an awesome guy and I know he is missed.
1 December 2008 - Efland, NC
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Harold
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Jay these people will pay ther det when they go befor JESUS
18 October 2008 - SC
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Angel
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I'm not sure how I ended up here at this site.but I stayed for alittle while and looked at all of the pictures. He was very loved.you can tell. I hope your hearts are mending.although they may never be complete.
11 September 2008 - NC
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joseph DuPOnt
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We must make passenger call 911 and report hit and run accidents. This might save lives. We can't wait until the driver sobers up to get help to the victims.
please serch you tube under
Steven Bacon and Steven's Law
for more info .
29 April 2008 - Towanda, PA
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Ashley Birtchett
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I know it's been a long time since I have been in touch, but I want you to know that we still think about Jay, his family, and the heartache that you & Kim are still going through. Even though I never got to know him there was a presence about him that can't be forgotten. I hope the end of your road for justice is coming soon. God Bless.
Love,
Ashley Birtchett
28 April 2008
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Risa
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Kim, Dona told me about this website. I am heartsick for you and your family that you have had to go through losing Jay followed by all of these legal challenges. I really had no idea how lenient they are on those who cause the accidents. Before I read Jays website, I would have assumed that they would have at least been charged with vehicular homicide and detained as soon as they were found. (You are probably laughing under your breath at my ignorance of the system.) I can now say that I have been treated to a first-class education from exploring your web page and the links to the sites of other survivors. You really have a way of putting your feelings into writing. The best part is your mirror. It shows the depth of your bond with him. It is probably one of the most heartfelt things I have ever read on the Internet. Didnt some famous person once say, What doesnt kill me makes me stronger, but who ever wanted to be this strong? I continue to admire you for your honesty and openness, as I did in college. But most of all, I have been touched by how lovingly you express your relationship with your brother and how beautifully you portray his life on this website. Please get in touch if you are so moved.
23 April 2008 - Laurel, Maryland USA
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Marcia Bentz
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I was so sorry to hear of your loss and agree that our justice system just doesn't work. I remember Jay as Kim's annoying younger brother, as I also lost touch with Kim not long after she started attending UNC-G. You may have heard of me through Kim or Karen Walston. Again my deepest sympathies for you tragic loss. I hope you continue to fight against this injustice.
12 December 2007 - Mill Creek WA
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Karen Walston
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I was so sorry to hear about Jay. I have not been in contact with Kim for many years and finally reconnected. Thank you for letting me know of this tragedy and injustice. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. The family probably remembers me as "Styk". God Bless, Karen
4 December 2007 - Sylva, NC
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Paula
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I want to send Jay's family my deepest sympathies. My own brother was killed by a careless driver. He was on his bike and the man that hit him know the statetrooper at the scene and was never test for substances. My brother was blood tested( all test negitive) My brother was not on a motor bike but the state trooper reported that there were no reflectors on his bike and he was at fault. He did fail to state that he was struck so hard that they were knocked off and his bike chain was imbedded into the ashalt. Since that time Mr. Bellamy has had 12 other traffic violations and is wanted by the local PD for other violations. Just think if one man would have done his job. By baby brother was only 22 when he was killed. It has been 5 years and the pain still hasnt subsided. I hope one day your family will get some justice because mine never did.
14 October 2007 - SC
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Paula Vela
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Your Website really showed how the justice system works, which I already knew it didn't work in our favor. I'm very sorry for your loss.
17 August 2007 - Clinton NC
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Helen Brown
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My heart goes out to Jay's family.I ride bikes and I organized an association friends of fallen riders in Jackson, Ms. I would like to honor your son during our next event.(next year).I'm in tears & i can't say i no what your going thru but God be with you.
30 July 2007 - Jackson, Ms
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kim lea
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Through his Mother and Sister, I have come to know and love Jay for the wonderful son and brother he was. It would have truly been a gift to have been able to share even a single birthday with him.
19 May 2007 - High Point, NC
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Pam
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I pray each day for the healing of your family. I have the privelage of working with Kim every day and I can only hope that you all make peace with this. It's unfortunate what happened to your family and I hope someday everyone pays the price for Jay's life.
17 May 2007 - Knightdale, NC
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Christina Neblett-Jarman
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Happy Birthday, Jay and thank you!
I will always love you.
17 May 2007 - Winter Park, FL
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Karin
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My heart goes out to you and your family. I do not pretend to understand your pain and only hope that justice is someday served. Ride on brother.RIP
6 May 2007 - Crestline, CA
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Kim
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In trying to gain just the tiniest bit of understanding for what you must be going through during these particular days, I came across this quotation:
"Justice is like a train that is nearly always late."
( Yevgeny Yevtushenko, Russian Poet)
I suppose you must be wondering if this train will arrive at all. Maybe, somehow, it's just on a different track.
My heart is always with you,
Kim
21 March 2007 - High Point, NC
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Lisa Fields
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I came across this site quite accidentally but my heart was so touched by Jay's story and his life. It was obvious what a wonderful, caring person he was and how deeply he was and is loved by his family. I am a mother of three and my heart hurts so much for you and for your family. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers. I know this can never be made better or less of a horror for you but I pray that your hearts will be comforted more and more as time goes on if that is possible. May God richly bless you and your efforts to keep this kind of travesty from happening to others.
15 March 2007 - Abbeville, SC
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Liz Donohue Kelly
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Wow--can't believe I came across this site.Terri Steltz from Southern High School (class of 86) told me about Jay several years ago. I remember Jay playing the bass drum in marching band. We had a lot of laughs while practicing. I remember him being very sweet, a bit quiet, and I remember his big blue eyes. To his family and friends: I am so very sorry for your loss! He was an all around good guy.
(I remember Gina Hildebran, too. We rode the bus together)
7 March 2007 - La Jolla (San Diego), CA
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Eddie Palmer
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Sorry for your pain.
Eddie Palmer
03/05/07 ____ Calif
4 March 2007
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Jo Graham
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I sent a message earlier and mis-spelled my own email,,sorry 'bout that, I continued to read on and truly my heart hurts for you, I am a mother of 2 and as my oldest is preparing for a license of his own, I do pray that never a situation as yours comes to light for us. Again, my heart to you and your, As Ever, Jo
22 February 2007
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Jo Graham
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First and foremost I extend my deepest sympathies, losing someone you love is a pain that some folks in our world will never understand, its certainly a hurt that wont go away.I read some of the Other Side and damn! A response to the idiot who questioned the damage left on the car that hit your brother, a very dear and thankfully alive friend of ours was riding his new harley up a Ky highway he was a timid rider and was doing 5 mph below the speed limit, in front of him was a van that was making a right hand turn off the hgwy while a car coming out of the same road did not see our friend behind the van and assumed it was ok to pull out and make her turn, this caused our friend but a moment to react and a moment was not long enough, he t-boned the auto and was thrown an incredible distance yet still survived. The car that was driven by a young girl 8 months pregnant was in fact still drive-able after the accident while our friend and his bike were not, he was flown out via helicopter, but again made a miraculous recover, however some injuries are for life. No matter how many idiots that you come in contact with, please know that your brother's life and death have touched hearts in this world that wish you and your family well. God Bless
22 February 2007 - Lavalette WV
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Gina Hildebran Grimsley
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Jay you are so missed and never forgotten
31 January 2007 - Hope Mills NC
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R & J Wood
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In researching on how to deal with a sibling's death for a friend of ours, we came across your site & so glad we did!
Please accept our sincere apologies to the members of Big Jay's family and his loved ones for their devastating loss.
We both recall Jay's story, as we had been in M-Bch at the time, & glad to hear that the outcome is better than what we last heard, which was just a few days after the accident.
We are fellow bikers in the truest sense and over the years, we have unfortunately lost many, many loved ones due to motorcycle accidents. Truthfully, the major majority (well over 90%) of these accidents occurred due to gross inattention, indifference, utter ignorance, and or simple down right negligence on part of the individuals driving vehicles that ended up hitting the bikers.
Here is to hoping your site gives people some much needed insight and that it educates those who do not ride to start watching for and respecting those of us who do ride.
We would also like to extend our gratitude to you for sharing your story, and we both certainly COMMEND you for being brave enough to tell it.
Hopefully, your bravery will somehow assist you in coping with your loss.
So, again, thank you so very much and we surely hope that your lives are full of nothing but serenity, peace & love in the future!
20 January 2007 - Atlanta, Georgia
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Tammie
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My heart goes out to all of Jay's family. I am sorry that this family has had to endure such a tragedy as this.
My family & I have also endured the loss of my brothers due to the senseless acts of someone else. My younger brother was shot in the head. The person who murdered him got 3 years. My older brother died from an alcohol related accident, in which case he was the passenger. The girl who caused that wreck got charged with vehicular manslaughter. She got 20 years, 10 years in jail & 10 years on paper.
I've read post from those on the "Other Side". The only thing I can say is that there is definetly some mentally challenged folks in this world. When people die from cancer, heart diesease, any medical condition, then there is no reason to point blame for a person's deathe. But when a man is ran over in cold blood left there to die. And the people responsible for this sick disguisting act leaves the scene of the crime & never bothers to check on the person & doesn't bother to turn them selves in until many days later .
YES!!!! All fingers of BLAME should be pointed their way.
If it were those 2 boys that had been runned down & then left there rest assured their family would probably do more than point fingers. Being how they are quick to justify the wrong doing in which these boys did. There are some very sick & mentally challenged folks in this world .
And I truly am sorry that Jay's family has to encounter cruelty of losing Jay along with dealing with the "Others Side" of uncaring, hateful people.
19 January 2007 - Mississippi
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Kim Lea
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You know that I have been thinking about you and your Mom for the past days. I don't know how you can manage to "think" at all with all you must be feeling. I applaud your courage. I am inspired by it.
To say/write that seems so very trite, but I really, truly don't have words for this.sorry.
Take Care,
Kim
18 January 2007 - High Point, NC
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Anita
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I never met Jay but I am very fortunate to know his sister, Kim. And through Kim, I am learning about Jay and his life. I know that he is still missed every day and is still loved very much. And I know that he is never far away as long as he is kept within memories. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
7 August 2006 - Raleigh, NC
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Elizabeth Hardy
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I am so sorry for your loss, I know how you feel my son was killed on June 26, 06 no crinmals charges are pending, I am going crazy with grief, but I am trying to gather anyone to help me change these stupid laws. We need more rights. Again I am so sorry for your loss. In what I have read about him he was a great man.
4 August 2006 - Austin, Texas
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James Terry
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I fully understand what happened and how you all feel. My brother was also killed by a drunk driver while on his motorcycle. His killer only got 7 years and will be out 3.5. My heart goes out to you all. I will put a link to your website on the website honoring my brother.
25 July 2006 - Milton, WV
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Joan Pfeiffer
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Dear Family of Jay,
Even as I read about this wonderful guy, and saw his photos, I know that the love his family "feels" cannot be portrayed on paper. I hope and pray that those men will never be able to "kill" again! Believing there is "justice for Jay".
Joan
22 June 2006 - Greensboro, NC
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Kerri
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I am very sorry for your loss and I pray that justice is one day served!
your friend in grief,
Kerri
22 June 2006 - Louisiana
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chrissy
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I would like to say that i just read the article about jay and i feel that justice has not been served.For someone to kill another human being regardless of how they do it is still murder.I am very sorry for your loss,jay died way to young by some careless teenagers who by all rights should have been convicted of murder.i would like to let you know that you and your family are in my prayers and i wish you the best.god bless you.
19 June 2006 - nitro,west virginia
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Christina Neblett-Jarman
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Jay,
I miss you.
18 May 2006 00: 34 - Winter Park, FL
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angela baker
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i am sitting here and reading the whole site on ya'lls brother and son and i have chills all over me! it is a very saddening "situation". and also very upsetting to me to know that those boys could get away with such a thing. ya'll are in my prayers and in my thoughts as well. may justice prevail!
5 April 2006 - bonham texas
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Shannon
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I am so sorry for your family's loss. I lost my own brother, way too soon, on 03/28/05. Jay looks like he was a wonderful person. Thanks for sharing him with all of us. I will keep you all in my prayers.
4 April 2006 - Wilmington, NC
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George Evans
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you are still missed
28 March 2006 - Roxboro/NC
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Paul Seidelson
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I am very sorry for your loss.
4 January 2006 - Columbia, SC
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Jonathan Koziol
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I want to give you my deepest regards. Jay seems like he was a well loved man. I am sure those two boys are reminded everyday of what they did. Semper Fidelis and God Speed
15 December 2005 - Jacksonville/North Carolina
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Jay-Nine
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My prayers are with you and your family. May the lord hold you, giving comfort in your time of need.
11 October 2005 - Los Angeles, CA
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Amber
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* one life lost but never forgotten *
11 October 2005 - sc
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Joy
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I am very sorry for your loss. It seems our "justice system" works so hard to insure the rights of the accused that the victims are simply forgotten. But rest assured I will not forget.
6 October 2005 - Tahlequah, OK
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~Gone But Not Forgotten~
*in memory of jay*
14 September 2005 - St.Albans
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kim lea
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On one of Kim's "Mirror" messages, she shared some advice given to her by her mother: "Nobody feels your pain but you," (I'm paraphrasing - I don't mean to mis-quote).
Wishing for each of you a place of peace within yourselves,
kim
Please know that though I am not feeling your pain, I am tonight knowing my own pain for what you are feeling.
31 August 2005 - High Point, NC
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Christina Neblett-Jarman
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I was going thru some old photos and came across one of my most cherished photos of Jay and I together. I thought that I would look him up and contact him to see if he would be interested in seeing them again as well. I was not expecting to find that he was killed. For those of you who don't know me, I am his first wife. Even though our marriage didn't work out, we did have the opportunity talk and make things right and remain friends. He was a great guy, a wonderful husband, a best friend, and a great teacher (he taught me to ride). I have and will always forever love him.
16 August 2005 - Winter Park, FL
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Melissa Wojcik
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Hooray! One of those criminals is behind bars where he should have been from the start. Good work Brenda and Kim. Your vigilence paid off inspite of the Kafka-esque bureaucracy.
15 July 2005 - Colorado
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John McArthur
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Jay,
I wish I'd seen you again sooner and more often. I'll always remember riding mini-bikes, go-karts, and the KISS/Nantucket concert at the age of 10 with your Mom and mine playing chaperone. You were my first best budddy and it sux that you are gone. See you on the other side.
Johnny Mac
7 July 2005 - Willow Spring. NC
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Linda Price
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I, sadly, never had an opportunity to know Jay. However, if he was as wonderful a peron as his mother and his sister, I know what a great loss his family must feel. As time will prove, through their efforts, Justice for Jay will be served.
24 June 2005 - Rock Hill, SC
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Angela Mitchell
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My name is Angela Mitchell. I ride with the Columbia Star riders chapter 124. I live in Darlington County SC. A few short weeks ago, I went to my weekly Rotary Club meeting. The speaker that day (May 17th) was a state highway patrol officer (Wayne Gough) trying to make his case for "seatbelts save lives" and how a primary seatbelt enforcement law would save lives. He didn't actually speak much as he wasn't a man for many words, but he brought with him a DVD to show the room of 40 business men and women. As I watched the state produced propaganda video, there was a long segment in the middle where it showed pictures and names of people killed on SC roads who were not wearing their seatbelts. There in the middle of the video was Jay's name and his drivers license picture. When I saw his name, it was familiar to me and I wanted to remember why, so I pulled a business card out of my purse and wrote down his name. Then today, as I was cleaning out my billfold, I came across the card. A quick web search reminded me of where I knew that name from and the story behind it....motorcyclist killed in MB by a hit and run....then I thought, how can SC Highway Patrol use Jay as a statistic for seatbelts?? Motorcycles don't have seatbelts! It made me angry! Very Angry!!
I guess I just wanted his family to know that his name and image are being shown to community groups and school classrooms all-over SC with the message he died because he didn't wear his seatbelt. WHEN WILL THE INJUSTICE END?
My prayers go out to Jay's family!
Respectfully,
Angry in Darlington!
Angela
9 June 2005 - Darlington County, SC
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Brandi Bateman
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I was sitting at work looking up sites to find a motorcycle for my daughter when I came across this site. His story was so touching to me. I spent two hours reading through the site. My life will never be the same from reading this. I feel for all of you and my prayers are with you.
1 June 2005 - San Bernardino, California
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